In coaching and in IFS, all parts of you are welcome. 

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Every part of you has a reason for existing and an ultimately positive purpose. 

 

A part's job may be to try to manage or control what happens to you, to protect you from negative or painful experiences.  Or it may act to relieve painful feelings when they do occur. 

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Parts generally show up as repetitive thoughts, feelings, or bodily discomfort.  We may dislike these experiences and try to push them away, but like small children wanting our attention this only makes them louder.

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When we can bring a degree of curiosity, openness, and compassion to the part, we can get to know it better and let it start to trust us in turn.  

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Just like in an external family, when parts feel accepted, heard, and seen, they can relax and move into positive expression of their qualities and gifts.

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We can build an alliance in service to that which we, as more than the sum of all our parts, most desire.